“I was still really aware of the fact that I didn’t even know what the story was.” Instead, she wrote in her journal—ugly, dark things she didn’t want anyone to know. Her strange resume confounded employers; she simultaneously appeared overqualified and underqualified. Natalie Jean is an award winning, multi-nominated singer-songwriter and performer. “I had to reckon with the fact that I’d been lying to people,” Natalie (who now uses her maiden name, Lovin) tells me now. [–]tanya_gohardingtonBut first, shut up about your coffee 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children), It was deleted because she announced on a private IG account so the OP felt it was in our taste to keep the thread up, [–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (3 children). Photography by MICHAEL WILTBANK. Could you just cry? What did she post? She decided against it, she says, because “I didn’t want to ruin crafty stuff like I ruined writing.”, She’s not the only lifestyle blogger who feels this way. Natalie lives in New York City with her husband, Brandon, and son, Huck. She dates very casually, but she’s not looking for a relationship, and certainly not a marriage. Newest post on GOMI. But vulnerability and authenticity requires its own strategy. She had moved from Moscow to Portland, Ore. for a job at a startup that evaporated within a few months. The Holbs was making good money as a financial services manager at a well-known accounting firm, and if she was getting free strollers for blogging about them—well, that was the icing on the cake. “I needed to establish my pecking order again,” she says. That’s where I first saw her, eight years after our last interview: standing at the barre in all black, a messy braid swept to the right side. Do not post comments, direct message, or otherwise interact directly with influencers or those related to them in any way or encourage others to do so. When Armstrong realized she wanted to leave her husband, she immediately did calculations in her head. In an act of desperation three weeks before my own breakup with my husband, I posted a smug selfie of us snuggling on a beach towel. I walk around most days feeling really pretty great. Do not stalk, dox, or post info that has not been disclosed openly. Natalie’s discomfort with packaging her life for consumption had become too much to bear. mirror sites). She could be tone deaf and irritating sometimes but no where near levels that justified how much PP seems to hate her. Hey Natalie Jean is a terrific read for anyone who wants to make her life more beautiful.” – Gretchen Rubin The blog Hey Natalie Jean has won a cult following with writer Natalie Holbrook’s honest, inspiring, and often witty posts on … I always liked her. Now I'm confused as to who Natalie Jean is and why I should care enough for it to be the front page of GOMI. I think she shared the lost because sharing personal stuff is kinda second nature to her from blogging and now she regrets it. “The last thing I would want is someone relying on me to be something to them. All the eye rolls to PP for keeping this going once someone has in fact, gotten OMI. In 2005, Natalie Holbrook began blogging as a way to share her adventures in New York City with her mother. She is also a Voting Member in the Recording Academy (GRAMMYS). © 2021 reddit inc. All rights reserved. Then, on Instagram, I watched her posts grow less cryptic, more raw and more despairing. Natalie and her husband had known they were polar opposites since they tied the knot in 2003 after meeting at BYU. “Have I mentioned how that red beard makes my knees go all wobbly?” She had struggled for two years to get pregnant and, when Huck was born, she wrote, “Have you ever had a dream come true? It showed her and Huck traipsing around the city, with “Moon River” as the soundtrack. “Insider” information will be removed at moderator discretion. She described herself as “clinging to the final vestiges of expired dreams like a five-year-old clings to your leg at kindergarten drop off.” She seemed to be putting a determined spin on things, concluding with a plucky sign-off and a smiley face emoticon. Do not track/ log activities or locations. Let’s chat fashion! Eventually, in February 2018, she packed up and moved to Portland with her ex’s blessing and the startup gig. I hope she's OK. She wrote a book of advice, Hey Natalie Jean, that is a time capsule of the sunniest version of herself. Do not mock mental health conditions - diagnosed or otherwise. Beautifully illustrated and whimsically designed, the book offers twenty-five essays and how-tos that serve as a guide to life: making date-night magic in the middle of the mundane, successfully exploring the city with a three-year-old, and … But for people like Natalie, who place an emotionally risky bet by monetizing their personal lives, divorce threatens to diminish the value of the carefully crafted narrative. That, too. She approved me surprisingly fast, which kind of surprised me -- I would have understood if she didn't want more randoms. Write that off. Here is the thing about deciding to blog. No spam, self-promotion, or trolling. Repeat offenders will be banned. A versatile performer and singer, she sings and writes many genres ( Jazz Pop, R&B, Blues, and Dance) and can also sing in French, Spanish, English, and Creole. Readers became upset. GOMI, founded in 2008 by blogger Alice Wright, is one of the most concentrated and active of the “hate blogs”. As with Natalie, the confluence of online vitriol and a difficult divorce plunged Armstrong into a deep depression. Not sure why - if she's off limits because she's not blogging she shouldn't be discussed in This Week in WTF either, IMO. Not that I make the rules here or anything. In a gracious, poignant post last year, Staubs announced her and her husband’s decision to “restructure [their] family” and that the details would remain private. After she and the Holbs stopped going to church in the spring of 2014, she started wearing tank tops and getting tattoos and drinking. “He was treating me as an extension of himself,” she says. I'm hoping better things come along for her. Do not post anything from private social media (even public figures) or from behind a paywall. The problem was, turning her blog into a career sucked the pleasure out of it. A makeup run at Duane Reade? Natalie Jean is an award winning, multi-nominated singer/songwriter performer. I remember it being a front page post when she lost a chicken for a short period of time the first day they had them. Back to Top. Rendered by PID 9351 on r2-app-0dc70e46e7ff13865 at 2021-02-14 10:11:18.298619+00:00 running 6289523 country code: US. View the profiles of people named Natalie Jean. Some people theorize that it's because HNJ moved to Brooklyn and got some hipster tattoos and had a claw-foot tub and was basically living PP's life, only successfully, so PP is mad jealous. Since GOMI is so buggy and I refuse to disable AdBlock, maybe we could move the snark train over here? She put her archives back online and announced her intent to start writing again. That doesn’t mean you can’t talk about the person, it just means you can’t talk about the private content. It’s daunting and inspiring and scary…before you even log on to type a word. However - she did put it on a disappearing, 10 second story, not make an announcement, and she says she wishes privacy, and that deserves some respect. It just seems like a sucky situation all the way around. Each of the dancers in the room—the teacher with tiger print pants, the man with dainty pink ballet slippers, the woman with two punky high buns and a holey T-shirt—seemed to be tapping into the recesses of their childhood training, and the discipline they’d retained, escaped, or recast as leisure. [–]meeeehhhhhhhPathologically addicted to drama 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children). 26 comments. She scaled back her blog for the sake of her mental health and her marriage. I think they are able to view it as a ministry in a way. There was an earlier post about this, but I think it got deleted? share. Grief snark (e.g., someone is not grieving in the way you think they should) is not allowed. “Natalie Holbrook’s sensibility is stylish and playful, as well as practical, loving, and down-to-earth. Just a few (some of these are now defunct, I believe): Love Taza, NieNie Dialogues, Pink Peonies, Hey Natalie Jean, Hungry Runner Girl, and even Dooce is an ex-Mormon. Hey Natalie, I'd just like to say that your blog is my absolute favorite and I read it every day. Many of Natalie’s mommy blogging contemporaries have since split from their husbands, like Heather Armstrong of Dooce, Jill Smokler of Scary Mommy, and Maggie Mason of Mighty Girl. [–]ironylaced[S] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children). In each case, the breakup triggered some level of identity crisis: Who am I, really, and what do I do with this blog? She sings many genres, such as Jazz Pop, R&B, Blues, and Dance. I saw the comment on instagram from that girl saying you were coping so and so before it got deleted and I'd like to say your blog is absolutely unique and perfect in every way. Then once you do, you start to dive into this blog world and find so many people doing it and it becomes even more daunting and inspiring … someone tried to congratulate me in the hallway at church on “my pregnancy” and i found myself leaving early, trying my hardest to fight back a whole lotta stupid tears … Continue reading → Nickname creation has historically gotten out of control on this sub, so isn’t allowed. Her background in classical dance and modeling eventually led to a career in film and TV. But Natalie couldn’t bring herself to rebrand, and she couldn’t bring herself to blog through it. She had never felt a deep connection to Mormonism, and she was increasingly appalled by its anti-LGBTQ doctrine. Natalie kept coming back to ballet because it “was a place where I was allowed to be hard on myself and expect perfection of myself,” she explains after class over coffee. Then the Holbs was offered a professorship that led the family back to Moscow, Idaho, where the couple had lived while he got his law degree at University of Idaho, before Huck was born. If you do and they blocked you, keep it to yourself. After graduating from Goucher College with a dance degree she worked various modeling jobs, and appeared in music videos for bands … I hope she's able to move somewhere where she can have a better support system. She and Huck’s dad were toying with getting back together, and in the midst of that wavering, Natalie read Betty Friedan’s 1963 classic, The Feminine Mystique. At her peak, she made $70,000 in a year and the site was attracting nearly 700,000 visitors a month. She had her faults but I really enjoyed her writing and she seemed like someone I would like. Natalie Holbrook’s sensibility is stylish and playful, as well as practical, loving, and down-to-earth. “That’s when I experienced for the first time how much it sucks to be a woman.”, In the past, she says, her idea of feminism was to be taken seriously and still have men to hold the door. I'm curious to see how she moves from here on out. “I can tell something happened, I can tell you’re divorced,” people would email her. Now, ten years later, Natalie … Suddenly it was, “I need a job, and I have to explain to people the reason why I didn’t work for 10 years.”. Hey Natalie Jean is a terrific read for anyone who wants to make her life more beautiful.” – Gretchen Rubin. After ballet, we got in her beat-up, white Jeep Wrangler to swing by school and pick up Huck, now a matter-of-fact eight-year-old with decent manners and a penchant for flat soda. [–]DingoAteMyTacos 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children). Be specific and don’t use nicknames not used by the person. Unemployed and with no structure or routine, she could barely peel herself off the couch every day after driving her son to school. “I didn’t want to exist for other people,” she says. Hey Natalie JeanHey Natalie Jean divorce? “Literally the worst!” one commenter chirped, yet “aren’t we so blessed??”. She’s a skilled storyteller who arranges folksy metaphors and quirky details like accent pillows. Discussion of certain content has been barred or limited. ... Hey Natalie Jean, Love Taza, Veronikas Blushing, Pink Peonies. Specifically, Hey Natalie Jean was the result of a time when cellphone minutes were extremely limiting and would cost you an arm and a leg to go overboard. I'm not a fab of the "if you don't like me you're jealous" narrative, but in her case, I definitely think it's the biggest factor. We do not allow discussion of the Tripp family (Robbie/Sarah) in any capacity. “You’re in Portland on a sunny day,” he says, walking into the hallway to congratulate me. Natalie Lovin / Hey Natalie Jean / Nat The Fat Rat. “Do I stay miserable inside of this marriage, or do I break free and figure out how to live the rest of my life?” She had moved into a giant house as a business investment—a backdrop for activities to document on her site, which was supporting her entire family. A year into the separation, she downloaded Tinder. [–]fibonacheese 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children). Anyway, just jumping on to say I didn't expect to feel this way, but I'm sooooo glad Natalie is back. yesterday was one of those really weird days for me. I don't follow her on IG and shes private now, didn't know if anyone else followed/if there was more indication of what actually happened than just what she posted on the instastory? The agency had her change her blog’s name from Nat the Fat Rat to Hey Natalie Jean so that she could attract sponsors “like Chanel” (Chanel did not come around). After months of a contract gig writing Nike’s employee training materials, she finally secured a full-time job at the company this fall. 10. Natalie Holbrook is the blogger behind Hey Natalie Jean. “My apartment is my showroom,” she figured. Let’s keep this community friendly and humane. But I don’t fault Natalie for any of this so consider this a positive review. The place is decorated with hanging guitars, cactii, a peacock rattan chair, a pale pink vintage quilt, as well as many of her own creations. Others find a new angle. The current one on GOMI is only from the last year and a half, there's a locked one still on site and then the first one was deleted somehow. Two days earlier, on April Fool’s Day, she’d moved to the new house by herself, in the rain, with a hastily rented U-Haul. This includes (but is not limited to) real estate listings, court/arrest records, voter registration, and tax records. It just seemed odd that she would include them in the same bullet point if they weren't related? But maybe not, depending. July 28, 2018 - 4:50 pm. The trajectory of a divorce can be years-long and jagged, spikes of self-actualization followed by plunges of despair. She did keep posting on Instagram, and former readers sensed something was up. But the ratio of mock-worthy things to the heaps of vitriol that PP lobs in her direction is, like, 1:10,000. Thanks for the heads up! '”, As Natalie’s audience grew, the warm-and-fuzzy “mommy blogging” culture I’d written about gave way to sanitized influencer culture. Every item on this page was chosen by an ELLE editor. Her blog, Nat the Fat Rat, allowed her to make money off of housewifely bliss—a Phyllis Schlafly-esque hypocrisy that might have seemed unbearably retrograde, were it not for her love of Hillary Clinton’s pro-choice politics and Rachel Comey’s chic clogs. You may be able to find more information about this and similar content at piano.io, Crazy Facts About the Making of 'Outlander', 40 Diet And Fitness Tips Kate Middleton Swears By. Only discuss public figures. Some, like Brooklyn blogger LaTonya Staubs, choose to raise the curtain a little while establishing boundaries. “I feel like a tarnished woman, like a brassy lady,” she tells me, in a good way. I found it interesting because had read her for years, but unfollowed around the time the book came out because frankly, I just got bored. 5. She got the feeling he had cast her in an old-fashioned role too: as Adam’s rib, as a helpmate and cheerleader whose purpose is to support him and raise his kids. Since its launch in 2005, the blog has garnered national attention and been featured in publications such as Salon, Apartment Therapy, GOOD, and Lucky, among others. … Michael’s? It occurred to me that Natalie had probably done ballet as a child, and by inviting me she was presenting her new spin on a past life. 40 Meghan Markle-Approved Health Habits To Try. “I’m going through it too, and I’m lost, and I wish you would write about it.”. The constant need to track and document what you’re doing for people—the burnout is real.”. Really freaking sad if it's true that that's why :( That isn't her fault! “I’ve changed so much and so many times.”. For years, Mormon mommy blogger Natalie Lovin curated a picture-perfect life. [–]ironylaced[S] 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (3 children). After Natalie drove off in the rented U-Haul, her ex moved 10 miles away to Pullman, Washington. The first time she had sex with someone else, an adorable graduate student who was studying the habitat of wolves and gave a little howl when he was happy, she was on her period. She had a temporary job at a real estate office and started selling those embroidered scarves and other crafts online to make ends meet. “The Holbs” became “Huck’s dad.” We all noticed the five-year-old photos with bittersweet captions, a forearm clustered with fresh tattoos, a photo of her new home in Portland hashtagged #lifestylebloggerptsd. If she was going to get back together with her husband, she was going to do it with “both eyes open.” After a road trip across the American West, they decided against reconciliation. Becoming a Mom Doesn't Mean Becoming a 'Mommy', This content is created and maintained by a third party, and imported onto this page to help users provide their email addresses. Hey Natalie Jean is a terrific read for anyone who wants to make her life more beautiful.” – Gretchen Rubin The blog Hey Natalie Jean has won a cult following with writer Natalie Holbrook’s honest, inspiring, and o This is not the place to post general hateful comments about influencers nor your fellow commenters. Natalie struck me as poised and fulfilled; “Her life is one you want to have,” I wrote. I haven't seen any indications of divorce, other than the mysteriously changing IG bio and the absence of husband pictures in the last few months. I actually like Natalie but I will admit that she's written some dumb things that might be worthy of mocking. hide. She is not off limits as far as I know. save. "Based on [the author's] popular blog with the same name, 'Hey Natalie Jean' identifies and describes life's lovely incidentals in the everyday routine of getting dressed, running errands, and setting up a home. And that she left that d-bag Brandon. But over IPAs and finger foods the next day, Natalie brings me back to what she describes as “the dark place.”. [–]morning_beer 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child). 7. Should You Be Able to Sue Your Husband's Mistress? For the past ten years, Natalie’s job was being a lovably quirky wife and mother who documented her idyllic life online. And for what it's worth, poor girl stuck in Idaho. Natalie Jean makes a famous career in the Hollywood industry, playing part in over 40 projects. I wrote a thing for Cosmo, I'm so excited it's finally live & I can share it with you. I was erasing myself.”. Personal brands die hard. She agonized for six weeks, “in complete and utter panic,” before she asked for a separation. And they have one baby and could adopt more. and join one of thousands of communities. It’s all a crapshoot.”. [–]grimykitten 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child). Amazon? When I first interviewed Natalie Lovin in 2011, she was near the height of her powers. She was a constant subject of conversation on GOMI, a website with forums dedicated to trash-talking lifestyle bloggers, ... Natalie Holbrook of Hey Natalie Jean… What is up party people!? I have to do something fast. Join Facebook to connect with Natalie Jean and others you may know. A rift developed between her and another Mormon style blogger at her church, and the fallout felt like middle-school cafeteria politics all over again. [–]morning_beer 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (8 children). Feb 12, SAG-AFTRA Approves New Influencer Agreement. I think the treatment of HNJ was what finally pushed me off GOMI and made me realize how unhinged PP is. :/. If I didn't want people to know, I wouldn't put it on my 55k instagram, even for 10 disappearing seconds, and if I really had a problem with having followers, I would probably just delete/stop using that account and start over. The blog Hey Natalie Jean has won a cult following with writer Natalie Holbrook’s honest, inspiring, and often witty posts on … Natalie Jean was born on April 18th in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. “‘Now that I need it, it’s not there anymore.’”. She had become a fixture on GOMI, a site devoted to hate-reading personal blogs. For what it's worth it seems like she had grown into a different person than she was when she and Brandon first got married and now she's free to find someone who complements who she is now... it could turn out to be a good thing for her in the long run, [–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children). [–]ironylaced[S] 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (5 children), It was a list she was burning that had a list of why 2016 sucked and one of the points was "got dumped by my husband because I can't have another baby" or something to that effect, [–]ohkaymeow 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (4 children). The content became more photo-heavy and product-driven. Don’t be creepy or enable creeps. Hey Natalie Jean. Find all the books, read about the author, and more. Do not post information from behind a paywall, with the exclusion of reasonable excerpts of things like news articles relevant for discussion. She was “finally in charge of something.”. REDDIT and the ALIEN Logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. π Rendered by PID 9351 on r2-app-0dc70e46e7ff13865 at 2021-02-14 10:11:18.298619+00:00 running 6289523 country code: US. She knew that ballet class would telegraph poise, pain, and femininity to a journalist, and that I’d get a kick out of visiting the bedroom where she kissed a gentleman caller out the window as a teenager. 6. Natalie explores marriage and family, personal style and nesting, and romance and friendship"--Page 4 of cover.Hey Natalie Jean She started partnering with brands like Nina Z and Tiffany & Co; she found herself at parties with Julia Stiles and Emily Ratajkowski. Discussion should be limited to public figures. Nicknames, make conversation confusing and function as gatekeeping. Content that is overtly or subtly biased due to race, sex, gender identity, sexual orientation, disability, or other identities/vulnerabilities will be removed. She hooked up with students and travelers, anyone “with a pair of lips,” resolving to kiss one man for each year she was married. Her 250,000 monthly readers seemed to agree. Worried that her estranged husband would cut off her cash flow, she hewed to a strict budget. “I lead a pretty charmed life,” starts a section called “How to Beat the Blahs.” “I know I’m really lucky. Hey there, first let me say “thank you” for wanting to know a little bit more about me. Finally migrating over from GOMI because I couldn't handle the conspiracy theories and "strangler" story yet again, but I used to be a Nat fan and was genuinely interested/sad about this. “It’s time,” she wrote on Instagram. At times she thought her husband was being cruel, but the cruelty seemed wrapped up in their inherited notions of marriage. Nick Hornby Introduces the Alluring and Magical Carey Mulligan in An Education, Every Girl in the World Deserves an Education, Natalie Dormer on the 'GoT' Routine She Dreaded, Chelsea Clinton on How to Make Global Education for Girls a Priority. “I was making up for lost time,” she says. “I’ve been trying to piece myself back together by remembering who I was at different points,” Natalie says. For a moment, in May 2018, it seemed as if blogger Natalie had been resurrected. (“It’s been the relief of MY LIFE,” she texted me after confirming the news.) The low point came a full two years after they separated. “Natalie Holbrook’s sensibility is stylish and playful, as well as practical, loving, and down-to-earth. A 29-year-old stay-at-home mom, Natalie lived on New York City’s Upper West Side in a tiny but well appointed apartment with her breadwinner husband, known as “the Holbs,” and her pudgy baby, Huck. Yeah I actually saw that after getting the heads up there was some discussion in that thread. But when she read Friedan, she realized she’d been putting up with men’s crap her whole life. 42.4k Followers, 940 Following, 3,525 Posts - See Instagram photos and videos from 🌙 Natalie Lovin (@heynataliejean) use the following search parameters to narrow your results: 1. If what she posted is the whole story, that's absolutely horrible. They made this outrageously amazing artwork for me to accompany it. Her major works involve 'Gotham', 'Ghost Source Zero', 'Noah', 'Through The Glass', and so on. Like I said-it's my favorite, and I read a lot of blogs. Do not discuss/encourage reporting content violations to platforms. Betta Fish. So the next day Natalie rented a U-Haul, filled it with everything she could carry herself, and drove it a few minutes down the road to the new house she was supposed to be sharing with her family. Hey Natalia “She’s one of the nicest people I’ve ever met” - Leticia Martinez (aka Natalia’s Mom) Yup, I paid her to say that! [–]pip_hiangel 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children). While I'm sure Idaho is a lovely place in some ways and for some people, visiting cousins of in-laws for a weekend made this city girl sad. In fact, I want you to go out and buy Hey Natalie Jean right now. By the end, the place looked like a “murder scene.” Natalie had never had period sex before; she was “ripping off all sorts of Band-Aids.” It was exhilarating. They were disappointed, exhausted, and fighting all the time. Do not post deleted/removed content or link to resources to find it. I’m homegrown, born and raised in North Hollywood, California! One version of the caption quoted the song’s lyrics: “Two drifters, my huckleberry friend.” The next minute, the reference was gone. They were both so busy, they were living on “separate islands.”, Natalie started to think that what she’d been raised to believe about marriage was sexist. Natalie Jean is a versatile performer and singer. “We see brands being totally fine with divorce, or ‘My child might be autistic,’ or ‘We’re going to couples’ counseling.’" Meanwhile, influencer culture has been moving away from polished, aspirational lifestyle content in favor of the relatable candor that audiences now crave. This is considered harassment. Talking through these momentous changes, it’s easy to see why Natalie was such a successful lifestyle blogger. I haven't been approved, so maybe she's trying to keep things more contained now? But in general she's backed off of frequent posting, and most of her pics are of Huck or their house anyhow, so I wouldn't have noticed if other people hadn't pointed it out. She looked like a successful blogger on paper but, without an aspirational domestic life to document, her earning potential was diminished. Promotion/in depth discussion of conspiracy theories should not be posted. From the newest trends to things I am drooling over, awesome sales, … [–]pip_hiangel -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (6 children). We have chickens, and it takes them a few days to understand where the coop is. I heard about the move/gomi/chicken collection etc, but had kind of forgotten about her until last week when I randomly wondered what she was up to and, just for kicks, requested to follow her on instagram again. She had just been dumped—her words—by her husband of more than a dozen years, the second man she’d ever kissed. Yesterday afternoon she posted a winged eyeliner ‘hack’ originally posted by another account – … Trying to circumvent filters or moderator action to discuss these topics will likely result in a ban. [–]fibonacheese 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (8 children). Natalie Lovin - 80.24k Followers, 237 Following, 18194 pins | babies // nesting // style It wasn't deleted by the mods I think it was user deleted but not sure why they deleted it.